To Lasik, or Not to Lasik?

That is the question. Ever since my wife and I put our finances in order, we’ve been looking forward to pursuing larger goals like becoming debt free, paying our son’s way through college, or the ever-popular buying a house. More immediately, though, I’ve been entertaining the idea of getting laser eye surgery.

I’ve had poor vision for most of my life. I know the cost would be significant, but it’s no longer prohibitive. The procedure itself is a little off-putting, but I think I could handle it. And I’m not particularly worried about any long-term risks. If I decide to go through with it, there’s really nothing standing in my way.

My real concern, however, is a loss of identity. As William James says in the Principles of Psychology, “The old saying that the human person is composed of three parts - soul, body and clothes - is more than a joke.” I’ve worn glasses since I was nine years old. They’re a part of who I am. I probably wouldn’t be the same shameless nerd I am today if I’d never needed them. If I don’t wear them anymore, will that diminish me? Will I see someone else when I look in the mirror?

Just as important as how I see myself, though, is how others will see me. I find that people with glasses are regarded as more intelligent. If I no longer wear glasses, will that make others regard me differently? Since I’m in a computer-centric field, will it hurt my career prospects?

I’m probably overreacting, but that’s my predicament in a nutshell. I know getting laser eye surgery won’t fundamentally change who I am. Still, I haven’t gone a day without glasses for the past decade and a half. If I stop wearing them, will it alter the identity that I’ve established? What do you think I should do?

I guess since I’m the only voter, my vote wins

For the time being. Have patience and we’ll see what others think.

Your Mother will always know who you are and will love you no matter what!

clears throat
I don’t think its your glasses that give you the appearance of being a “shameless nerd.”
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In all serious, I can relate with you on glasses being a part of one’s identity. I’ve had mine a long, long time as well (since third grade, I believe) and I don’t know if I could go without mine either. We’re at a time as well where our vision insurance would give a sizable discount on Lasik and the idea is possible, but I’m just not sure about it. I have no fear of procedures being done to my eyes, but as blind as I am, what if it doesn’t work? I also wouldn’t be able to hide my shifty eyes behind my glasses anymore.

So…perhaps you need a “Not sure” choice as well.