Comments on: Getting Married Young http://www.projectparadox.com/personal/family-life/getting-married-young.php Mon, 30 Nov 2009 20:47:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Stephen Ward http://www.projectparadox.com/personal/family-life/getting-married-young.php/comment-page-1#comment-35036 Stephen Ward Fri, 13 Jun 2008 19:11:40 +0000 http://www.projectparadox.com/personal/family-life/getting-married-young.php#comment-35036 On the contrary, Joel, I'd say my stance is based on logic rather than fear. I'm 25 now, and I'm a much different person than I was when I married at 20. In my case, I like to think I've developed into a better husband and father. My wife and I have only grown closer as time has gone by. The fact that we've both grown so much, though, is evidence enough to me that everyone still has a lot of growing to do in their early 20's. I can easily see how couples could grow away from each other in the same timeframe. I fully intend to teach my son good principles so that he has a successful marriage. Regardless, my opinion to him will be as I have stated, that he should wait until he's finished becoming an adult to make a decision that will affect him throughout his adult life. I have no intention of laying that down as the law, of course; I'm just not that sort of dad. Hopefully, though, he'll have enough respect for my opinions at that point to listen when I advise in his best interests. On the contrary, Joel, I’d say my stance is based on logic rather than fear. I’m 25 now, and I’m a much different person than I was when I married at 20. In my case, I like to think I’ve developed into a better husband and father. My wife and I have only grown closer as time has gone by. The fact that we’ve both grown so much, though, is evidence enough to me that everyone still has a lot of growing to do in their early 20’s. I can easily see how couples could grow away from each other in the same timeframe.

I fully intend to teach my son good principles so that he has a successful marriage. Regardless, my opinion to him will be as I have stated, that he should wait until he’s finished becoming an adult to make a decision that will affect him throughout his adult life. I have no intention of laying that down as the law, of course; I’m just not that sort of dad. Hopefully, though, he’ll have enough respect for my opinions at that point to listen when I advise in his best interests.

]]> By: Joel http://www.projectparadox.com/personal/family-life/getting-married-young.php/comment-page-1#comment-34954 Joel Mon, 09 Jun 2008 05:30:53 +0000 http://www.projectparadox.com/personal/family-life/getting-married-young.php#comment-34954 I think it is unfair of you to make that judgment about your son before you even know who he will be when he turns 20. I can understand your fatherly protective nature, but I think this decision is one from fear. If you want to raise your son in fear of his decisions, thats your choice, but I think the more responsible thing to do is to raise him to understand the concepts necessary so that he will have a healthy marriage when and to whomever he chooses. Talk to him, tell him your concerns, but I wouldn't flat out tell him he can't get married. You will only create a rift in future family relations, say, a daughter in law who is never sure if you trust her or like her. I think it is unfair of you to make that judgment about your son before you even know who he will be when he turns 20. I can understand your fatherly protective nature, but I think this decision is one from fear. If you want to raise your son in fear of his decisions, thats your choice, but I think the more responsible thing to do is to raise him to understand the concepts necessary so that he will have a healthy marriage when and to whomever he chooses. Talk to him, tell him your concerns, but I wouldn’t flat out tell him he can’t get married. You will only create a rift in future family relations, say, a daughter in law who is never sure if you trust her or like her.

]]> By: lexie http://www.projectparadox.com/personal/family-life/getting-married-young.php/comment-page-1#comment-20598 lexie Thu, 27 Sep 2007 15:01:02 +0000 http://www.projectparadox.com/personal/family-life/getting-married-young.php#comment-20598 i agree with you! i agree with you!

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